Told You’re “Too Much”? Why Candice Koh is the Trauma Therapist You Need
- My Inner Child Clinic
- 12 hours ago
- 3 min read
“My counsellor told me I could not be helped.”
Imagine the person you went to for hope looking you in the eye and telling you that you were a "lost cause."
That’s exactly what happened to Candice Koh.
Years ago, a well-known counsellor told Candice she wasn’t ready for therapy. That her case was too much. That she was, essentially, unfixable.
If you’ve experienced trauma early in life, you know that voice.
Maybe you didn’t hear it from a therapist. Maybe you heard it from a parent, a partner, or even that nagging voice in your own head saying:
"Don’t be so emotional."
"Why can’t you just be grateful?"
"Why can't you just be happy?"
When you're told you're "too much" for the people meant to support you, you start to believe that "wholeness" is a gift reserved for someone else.
But Candice is living proof that they were wrong.
Like Candice, our clients held on to their belief that they could heal, that there was greater purpose to their life experiences, if only they had the right mentor.
Trauma Clients Need a Safe Space for Psychotherapy
Candice's healing journey began in her youth, in her decision to go to school for prefect duty early, quietly purchasing a pen knife before deciding not to slash her wrist with it. In that living of hell on earth, her inner wisdom guided her to seek healing in self-help and pursuits of achievements in school and work.
That is a coping behaviour often labeled as maladaptive, but truly it is a strength that she leaned into, knowing the one thing that kept her going.
Diligence born from trauma can be rewarding, yet it came with emptiness which called her to deeper healing. She was tested and rejected, pushed by famous self-help and leadership coaches to face her fears.
She did not feel safe enough to heal.
Until she met her mentor and trained at the School of Inner Work.
From "Unhelpable" to Wounded Healer: A Psychotherapist's Journey
Candice didn’t accept the label. Instead, she found a mentor who gave her the one thing the others wouldn’t.
A safe space.
The messy middle in the healing journey requires a safe space to figure things out.
Today, Candice is a clinical trauma specialist who personifies the very transformation our clients seek. She didn't just study therapy; she lived the journey from being dismissed to being empowered.
Our clients have experienced similar rejection from friends, professional therapists and other authority figures, some even in the context of their faith.
That's why working with Candice is our blessing.
My Inner Child Clinic's trauma and inner child healing approach is rooted in the salutogenic model of building safety, learning to be emotionally regulated and uncovering the strengths and agency our clients had to develop in spite of their trauma.
In trauma therapy and in widely researched methods of therapy, the most commonly identified factor in positive therapy outcomes is the sense of safety and ability to co-regulate with the therapist. This is known as therapeutic alliance.
Salutogenic Trauma Therapy
At My Inner Child Clinic, we don’t focus on what’s "broken" in you. We practice salutogenic trauma therapy which is an approach that focuses on the factors that support human health and well-being, rather than just the causes of disease.
For Candice, and for our clients, the secret isn't a magic pill or a "fix-it" script. It’s two things:
Feeling Safe: The kind of safety where you don't have to perform or minimize your pain.
Co-regulation: Having a guide like Candice who has regulated her own nervous system through the fire and can help you find your way back to yours.
You aren't "too much." You just haven't been seen yet.
Many of our clients start their journey feeling like a lost cause. They end it living purposeful, whole lives.
Candice is here because she knows exactly what it feels like to be told "no" and she’s dedicated her life to this mission.
We are incredibly grateful to have her on the team.
Ready for inner child & trauma therapy?
Tired of being judged by others of yourself? Have you chosen to remain hopeful in your own trauma healing journey? Chances are, if you've read till this last sentence, that Candice could be that psychotherapist who holds the safe space for you.
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